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Are you paying attention? James Avramenko (writer, poet, teacher) is trying to. Friendless is a podcast about paying attention — to yourself, to the people around you, and to the ideas and conversations that help you make sense of being a person. Some weeks that looks like a practical skills episode on emotional regulation, how to actually listen, or the slow work of knowing yourself better. Some weeks it's an honest conversation with a guest, recorded live at an indie bookstore in Vancouver. An engaging and honest look at connection, intimacy, and self-compassion — minus the wellness-industry bullshit. Fun and safety, Sweet Peas!
April 7, 2026

A False Sense of Safety: Iona Whishaw on Trust, Community, and the Lies We Tell Ourselves (Live at the Book Warehouse)

A False Sense of Safety: Iona Whishaw on Trust, Community, and the Lies We Tell Ourselves (Live at the Book Warehouse)

What does it take to truly belong somewhere — and what happens when you didn't know that's what you needed?

This week on Friendless, James sits down with Iona Whishaw — bestselling author of the Lane Winslow Mystery series — for a live conversation at the Book Warehouse on Main Street in Vancouver, BC. Her newest novel, A False and Fatal Claim, is the backdrop for a wide-ranging discussion about identity, deception, community, and the surprising things we discover about ourselves when we stop running.

They get into: the lies we tell ourselves versus the lies we perform for others; why Iona doesn't plot her novels (and what that means for how story finds her); how Kings Cove functions as both utopia and honest mirror; the way technology has quietly eroded our capacity for friction — and why friction might be exactly what we need; Lane Winslow's journey from deliberate isolation to unexpected belonging; and how writing at 64 gave Iona a whole new life.

Iona also shares how her mother — a larger-than-life woman who hitchhiked to Alaska with an evening gown and sneakers — became the unlikely skeleton of Lane Winslow, and what it means to inherit someone's courage second-hand.

Recorded live at Book Warehouse Vancouver

Pick up Iona's book at the Book Warehouse on Main Street.

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