Radical Acceptance Bro! (Distress Tolerance pt. 2)

Distress Tolerance Pt. 2: Self-Soothing & Radical Acceptance This week on a very special episode of Friendless, we're continuing our exploration of Distress Tolerance skills as the DBT mini-season hits the halfway mark! STOP and TIPP — last week's skills — are built for acute crisis moments. This episode is for the other kind of hard: the slow burn, the ongoing grief, the situations you can't fix right now and just have to live with anyway. Two major skills today: self-soothing and radical acceptance. Self-Soothing is about giving your nervous system what it needs to feel safer — not by fixing the thing, not by numbing out, but through sensory input that tells your body it's okay right now. James breaks down what this looks like across all five senses, shares what's in his self-soothing kit, and makes a case for building your own before you need it. Radical Acceptance is probably the hardest skill in DBT. It's also, in James's experience, the most transformative. This is the practice of accepting reality as it is — fully, completely, without the layer of this shouldn't be happening — and why that's not the same thing as approval, defeat, or giving up. James draws on a deeply personal story about his divorce to show what it actually looks like when you finally stop fighting what is. In this episode: • Why stop and tip aren't enough for the slow burn — and what is • The DBT distinction between pain (unavoidable) and suffering (optional) • What self-soothing actually is — and what it isn't • A sensory breakdown of self-soothing tools across all five senses • What James carries in his self-soothing kit and why • The most common misunderstanding of radical acceptance • A personal story about divorce, gaslighting, and the moment reality finally shifted • Why radical acceptance is a practice, not a one-time decision • A short guided practice for both skills Connect with Friendless: • Email: friendlesspod@gmail.com • Instagram: @friendlesspod [https://www.instagram.com/friendlesspod/] • TikTok: @friendlesspod [https://www.tiktok.com/@friendlesspod] Create your podcast [https://zencastr.com/?via=james-avramenko] today! #madeonzencastr